I’ve been struggling lately to find my voice. Not just here, but on other social media, or even with friends and family, I have been experiencing an overwhelming sense that nothing I have to say will make much of a difference. Which has led me to the book, Everything You Need You Have: How to Be at Home in Your Self, by Gerad Kite (Crown Publishing Group, 2016).
Based heavily on Chinese philosophy and medical practices, this volume proposes to lead the reader through a journey into their center, or “Home”, where the pendulum swings of ego and emotional reactions are minimized and where the true and universal essence of each person resides. There is a calmness to the book that makes reading it almost a meditative experience, and I have found since finishing it that I often reach for the idea of a center where it doesn’t really matter so much how I feel about current events or the dramas unfolding around me. Having always been a believer in the idea of “moderation in all things”, the practices and suggestions in this book rang true for me, and have definitely helped me navigate the complexities of life.
I won’t say that I understood everything here. The chapter on “Natural Law” and the Five Elements of Wood, Fire, Earth, Metal, and Water left me confused and wondering. But the overarching message of caring for my body and cultivating awareness combined with letting go of “over-thinking” (something I have done my entire life!) resonated with me. I’ve got a lot of this type of book on my shelves. Some are more helpful than others, some have stayed with me long after I finished them while with others I would be hard pressed to tell you what their point was. Everything You Need You Have is one that I keep returning to in my mind. The last chapter, “Nothing Matters”, may sound nihilistic, but in fact is deeply liberating. Kite proposes that “Nothing you can know from your mind will ever be the whole Truth – and come the day that we all wake up to our Self and Home, there’ll be no need for right or wrong.” Giving myself permission to stop chasing the “right” words, or the “right” travel experiences, or the “right” interactions, has given me some peace, and that makes this book well worth reading and reading again.
I received this book from Blogging for Books for this review.